Authentic Forgiveness

forgiveness

When we can recognize ourselves in others and we can accept that all of creation is connected, we learn the meaning of authentic forgiveness.

Authentic forgiveness is the ability to let go of grievances; criticism, objections, judgements, guilt, blame – and turn those grievances into acceptance.

Accepting that life is sometimes unfair. Accepting that most people are not going to fall under our idea of ‘perfect’. Accepting that everyone is perfectly who they are. Accepting every mistake (yes, even the big ones!) as an opportunity for correction, an opportunity to learn, an opportunity for growth.  Accepting that what might be right for you is not necessarily what is right for the next person. Accepting that things are rarely as they seem. Accepting that what may seem like an injustice may actually come to be a blessing. And finally, accepting that God’s plan for you may be different than what you had planned yourself.

Ego plays a dark role in all our lives. It’s that annoying little voice inside that tells us we are inadequate, that we need to prove ourselves to everyone around us, making us believe that we are somehow better or that we don’t quite measure up to others, leaving us questioning whether we are failures or too good for our own good. Ego’s will is to keep us feeling separate and alone. Ego is our greatest deceiver.

The truth is that we are all sharing this experience together. We all fight the same battles, the only difference is in how our problems and challenges present themselves and how we react to them. Consider this for a moment: All problems stem from separation.

If this is true, authentic forgiveness / connection is the answer to every problem. When authentic forgiveness is achieved all that is left is absolute love and acceptance for all that is.

We will do anything to protect and care for those we feel completely connected to.We will make time for them. We will smile and acknowledge them. We will make sure they are fed, clothed, and loved. We will swallow our pride, let go of our ego and apologize when necessary. We will allow them to make mistakes, even if sometimes we are hurt in the process. When we feel connected, when we let go of judgments, blame, and grievances, we accept. We accept every person. We accept each moment. We accept our circumstances. We love ourselves enough to learn from every person, each circumstance and make change when necessary.

In a world of connection and absolute forgiveness, no one is left behind. Everyone is cared for, fed, and provided for. Everyone is loved and accepted exactly as they are.

All blessings and miracles in the world are visible from this place of absolute truth.

May your day be filled with love and miracles!

 

Shedding Light Into The Darkness

FreedomI think it’s safe to say that at least most of us suffer bouts of self-doubt and levels of depression from time to time and we all have our own ways of dealing with it when it hits. Some of us become angry and take it out on the world, some of us become withdrawn and hide from everyone in our lives. No matter who you are, no matter how you handle it, the truth is it sucks for all of us.

Depression, self-consciousness, whatever name you choose to give it, is the result of indecisiveness and lack of commitment caused by poor self-judgement. Think about it…every time you’ve found yourself in this downward spiral, you’ve doubted yourself. You’ve cut yourself short and beat yourself up in one way or another. Truth feels right, you feel bad because you are lying to yourself. And when you ‘speak’ to yourself this way, it becomes very hard to make decisions and / or commit to anything. Pay attention to this next time that dark cloud starts to hover. What is it you are telling yourself in your time of need?

It’s not your job to judge yourself. You were created with exact divine precision. You are impeccable, exquisite, and unique. You were created exactly as you are for good reason. You and you alone have the ability to carry out your Divine Plan. What you may perceive as your greatest fault, may in fact be your greatest gift. Consider this; It is those we called “bossy” in grade school who became the greatest managers and “the nicest girl in town” would probably make a mighty lousy choice for a lawyer. Every so-called flaw is a gift when you take the time to look at it in the right light. You truly are Divine. A perfect creation.

Life has a way of throwing some pretty nasty blows our way and even then, what we may perceive as a disaster may in fact be a gift. How many times have you had your heart broken and thought you would never be able to go on? When you look back years, or even months later, you find yourself thanking your lucky stars that relationship didn’t work out!

Whatever your purpose, whatever your destiny, there is a power greater than you working for your greater good. It is only through these eyes that you will see your perfection. It is only through this plan that you will see the flawless organization of the divine chaos that we call “Life”.

Surrendering

Image

Father, I give You all my thoughts today. I would have none of mine. In place of them, give me Your Own. I give You all my acts as well, that I may do Your Will instead of seeking goals which cannot be obtained, and wasting time in vain imaginings. Today I come to You. I will step back and merely follow You. Be You the guide, and I the follower who questions not the wisdom of the Infinite, nor Love who’s tenderness I cannot comprehend, but which is yet Your perfect gift to me. ~ A Course In Miracles

Isn’t it beautiful?

Embrace Your Awesomeness!

You may also like My Faith Unveiled, Journey Through Miracles,  Did God Overestimate Me?

Did God Overestimate Me?

Image

They say that God will never give you more than you can handle. I really think He gave me too much credit. I think He overestimated my strength, my tolerance, my patience, and my overall ability to cope.

He’s right, I am compassionate but I have limits. I don’t mind listening, in fact I like it. I am fascinated with the way every person’s mind works. I am amazed at how perceptions can shape any experience. I love being able to provide a new way of seeing things whenever I can. I don’t mind holding the space for people when they just need a safe place to vent to let out all of their frustrations. Usually it’s in this space where they find their own answers. If they ask for help, I will go over and above to offer it. I love to witness the change from a discouraged heart to one that is empowered. It’s incredibly fulfilling to be a part of that process.

My stubborn nature doesn’t allow me to give up easily. This is a both a gift and a curse. I refuse to give up on those I love. I have enough faith in the process of life to allow them to make and learn from their own mistakes as long as they are moving forward. But I do not possess nearly the tolerance required to watch them choose to hit rock bottom when the the door to what they want is left wide open and ignored. Nor do I possess the ability to watch those I love continue to hurt to the point of despair. I was not created with a heart that allows me to cope well with being treated as a mere convenience or being kept on a need-to-know basis when I am expected to ‘help out’.

I keep asking Him what my lessons are in all of this. Perhaps it is simply to realize that it is not my responsibility to ‘fix’ everything for everybody. People change when they are ready to take the necessary steps to ensure change. Maybe it’s my lesson to continue to trust in Him, learn to let go, and accept that I am responsible for my own peace as everyone else is for theirs.

 

 

Great Courage Can Come in the Smallest Packages – a tribute to Princess Laura

ImageOn January 30th 2013, Laura will be celebrating her 4th birthday! In honor of her birthday, I would like to share her story with you.

Laura was born a happy, healthy baby. A beautiful little package sent from Heaven welcomed into a family with a devoted Mother, a Daddy who is her hero, and a Big Sister who loves her to pieces. Laura never got sick, ever. In fact, the first time she ever needed medical attention was when she was 3 years old. She had fallen and needed X-rays. No one could have prepared themselves for the sequence of events that would follow those X-rays.

Laura has Leukemia. Those three words shattered their hearts and changed their lives forever. Big Sister Victoria cried “why is my sister sick?” Victoria was 8 years old and understood cancer. Laura’s parents were in shock. The next few days were spent expecting the Doctor to call saying it was all a big mistake, the test results were wrong and their little baby girl was fine.

That call never came.

Laura’s Mom continued to pray asking “why? Why my baby? Why would God allow this to happen?”

Do you know that even in the midst of complete heartache, she never loses faith? Do you know why? She told me because she looks into little Laura’s eyes and she knows she’s in God’s hands. She trusts in God’s plan and thanks Him everyday choosing her to be little Laura’s caregiver … Take a moment to really take that in….God bless her.

Laura’s chemotherapy treatments are trying, they take a lot out of her, but even at 3 years old, she toughs it out and remains strong. Laura met her best friend Riley in the hospital, at the time Riley was being treated for kidney cancer. Sadly, Riley passed away only days before celebrating her 4th birthday. Although the time they spend together was brief, they forged a bond that Laura won’t likely forget.

Image

Two months ago, Laura lost her hair. Her Daddy proudly supported his little girl by honoring the day with a ‘shave day’. He shaved his head to match hers. Embrace his awesomeness!

Being 5 years older than Laura, Big Sister Victoria is a huge help in Laura’s care taking. She asked to have her head shaved too, but it’s hard for little girls to grow their hair back, so she still has hers. Embrace her awesomeness!

Image

This year Laura will be celebrating her birthday with all her favorite princesses at Disney. Please join me in wishing her a very happy birthday and “liking” her page Team Laura. (Maybe send a shout out to Victoria, Mommy, and Daddy too 🙂  )

Laura continues to stay strong, facing challenges head on and tackling every obstacles that stand in her way. We can all learn from Princess Laura’s bravery and strength.

We embrace your awesomeness Princess Laura!

What will you take from her story?

Please help me share Laura’s story with the rest of the world. Her story deserves to be heard and her family could use all the love and support they can get.

All Love,

Sandy

If you enjoyed this blog, you may also like Unleasing The Hero Within.

Image

My Faith, Unveiled

Since the birth of my blog, I have been questioned countless times about my faith. People are curious as to what I call myself. What religion I follow, If I consider myself a Christian, and who is my God?

So here it is…my faith, unveiled.

I want to first be very clear that I struggled with sharing this post and only did so because so many of you have asked. I am willing to share my point of view, however this entry is not meant to convert you to my way of thinking, and it is in no way meant to impede on any other persons belief system. I have friends who emanate a love so pure that it can be felt by everyone around them and they each have different belief systems. My faith is sacred to me. It is my foundation. It comes from a place of love that allows me to be my best self, as is probably the same for you and your belief system. Religion and spirituality are a hot topic…I am only sharing with you what I have been asked.

I was baptized and raised in the Catholic faith. I am fascinated by the teachings of various religions. It seems that as many religions as there are, and though their words may differ, the teachings are relatively all the same. In how many languages can you speak Love?

I study and try my best to live by the teachings of A Course In Miracles. A Course in Miracles is is a unique, universal, self-study spiritual thought system that teaches that the way to love and inner peace is through forgiveness. Although the language of the Course is that of traditional Christianity, it expresses a non-sectarian, non-denominational spirituality. It is a universal spiritual teaching, not a religion.It’s teachings resonate with me. Through these teachings, I have learned to seek  answers within my own heart.I have learned to love what is and trust in God’s plan. My journey through this course has been nothing short of miraculous and unquestionably beautiful.

As for my beliefs…I believe in God. I believe in one God. I see Him as a being of pure and absolute love. I believe that everything He created, He did so in His own image…meaning to me, that God’s pure and absolute love is found within all of His creation. I believe he created me exactly as I am, and you exactly as you are. I believe He did so in order for us to carry out a very special purpose, a purpose we have been carrying out our whole lives, most of the time unknowingly. I believe that life is divinely organized. I like to believe that God and I create my life together. He has my back, and I do my best to have His. I communicate with God through prayer and I believe I have learned to feel His love and ‘hear’ His guidance with my heart. Through this precious relationship, He has helped me to achieve what I only dared to dream.

When bad things happen, I do my best to see them as gifts. How often has something felt like a disaster that later turned into a blessing? No human being is perfect, it’s what makes us human. We make mistakes, and we learn from them. The best lessons are those we have learned in turmoil and disappointment. I do my best to see God in all things, whether they seem good or bad. God is everywhere. Miracles surround us every single day. We need only to pay attention in order to see them.

Every failure is a stepping stone to success; to relish the sweetness of success one must endure the pain of failure

I had always considered myself a Christian, however I’ve been corrected by others who follow this faith. Many have referred to me as “new-age-y”. I’m okay with either or none. I guess I don’t really fit into any particular box. No matter what anyone wants to call it, I know it as Beautiful. So now when people ask what they should call me, I simply answer them “my friends call me Sandy :)”

So many wars, arguments, and fights have erupted in the name of religion. As long as one is coming from a place of pure love, real love, does it matter what label or title we attach to their beliefs? What happens to people like me? People who don’t quite fit into any particular religion?

I know my heart, and God knows it too. When I die, I just can’t believe that God will look upon my soul and say “Well Sandy, you did your best and you spread as much love as you could everywhere you went. It’s too bad you chose the wrong the religion.”

And so there you have it…my spirit, my heart, and my soul…my faith, unveiled…only because you asked. 🙂

I am always happy to hear your thoughts, I ask only that with this particular post, on this personal subject, that you respect my faith as I respect yours, even if they differ. As I said, my faith is very sacred to me. I am always learning, I am always evolving, and I look forward to continuing my journey in my own way. I would much rather live my life believing in all the beauty and love a heart can hold and die to find out I was wrong, than to live my life in fear or judgement only to die to find out love and forgiveness were always the answer.

Pamela Tourigny

Veganizer, Advocate, Mentor & Coach

beanvegan.wordpress.com/

Living Green. Bean Vegan.

THECOLORMAGE

Pittsburgh LGBTQ Gay Author Speaker | Color Therapy Chakra Young Living Essential Oils Aromatherapy Zodiac Horoscope Tarot

The Juicing Nomads

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ― Oscar Wilde

%d bloggers like this: